Is The Glass Half Full or Half Empty?

Everyone’s answer may be the same. ‘It’s all according to how you look at it.’  That is one question a lot of people know that can have two answers and both answers can be correct. 

Is the glass half full or half empty? Naturally if we look at it as being half full then we are labeled as being positive. A positive person tries to look for the good in anything and everything. I like to think my mother was a positive person.  A positive person generally has a smile on their face (maybe not all the time but a lot of the time). I try to be a positive person. Just like other people I too get down in the dumps and depressed sometimes. And if I don’t pick myself up there is someone else who can. I’m just glad that someone came along at the right time when I needed them the most. My question is: Are you one of those people who can lift me or someone else up when they feel down and out?

Obviously we all will say that we are that person and maybe so.  And to do that we have to be a positive person and say, ‘the glass is half full’.  I have a friend who always smiles and his favorite phrase is, “Hang in there sunshine, it’ll all get better.” He becomes a small ray of hope for others, for me. When it seems it can’t get any darker suddenly he pops in and he’s got a grin on his face like a `possum in a garbage can.  If you just smiled and laughed at that then you ought to be that positive person. 

If we look at the glass as being half empty then we are stereotyped as being a negative person. We don’t see the good in things. Those are the people who can’t see the beautiful forest for all the trees being in the way.  If they have a bleak outlook on life now what does their future look like? One thing that is overlooked that would make us a negative person is the questions we ask to someone else’s generosity. How many times has someone done something for you and you’d say, “You shouldn’t have.” Did you see that little “n’t”? That is actually a negative word abbreviated. Not, no, nada. If someone wants to get a blessing by being a blessing to us why would we want to address it negatively?   “Thank you.” “You’re so kind.” “I really appreciate that very much.” Would work just perfectly for such situations.

Have you ever been around a person that hates their life, hates the world and everybody in it? They are miserable and they want everybody around them miserable? And no matter how much positive you throw at them they throw more negative back? I was talking to someone one time making a suggestion and I finally asked them why are they so negative when I’m trying to be positive? Their words to me were they were not being negative they were being realistic. What if Abraham Lincoln was only realistic while trying to learn to read and write? What if Warren Buffet was only realistic while delivering newspapers as a boy? Just like them I would rather fall flat on my face trying to be positive and try to succeed than to be negative and never try at all. For me it goes right back to the famous words of Alfred Lord Tennyson: ‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.’ Or in my words, ‘It is better to have tried and failed than to never try at all.’

One of the many reasons I go to church is to encourage others and to be encouraged myself. And that’s what I tell everyone around me. Carry a positive attitude and be positive for those around you.

While Vacationing, Vacation

Recently I went to where my wife worked in a restaurant.  At first I sat down for a moment to observe the people going in and out. They were almost standing out the door waiting to be served so I asked my wife if they needed any help. She told me I could start cleaning up some in the front and start washing dishes in the back.  To say the least I’m not above washing dishes or wiping tables in a restaurant. 

 The majority of the customers were travelers.  Heading to the beach or on their way home.  Someone could most certainly tell which were going and which were coming.  Those heading south were all excited and giddy, anticipating the moment when they can first set foot on the sand, hear the roar of the waves or smell of the salt water in the air.  Most of those heading home were blistered, looked exhausted and would not only be cranky to an employee of a convenient store or restaurant but some would be cranky to their own family.

When I did get a moment I went to the drink fountain to get me something to drink. I would smile and say ‘hey, how yaw doin’?’ to some of the patrons showing my best southern hospitality.  Some would smile back and say, ‘hey’; others wouldn’t say anything and ignore me. 

When I got to the drink fountain I noticed cup lids scattered everywhere,  paper from straws lying around and ice all over the counter.  I took a napkin and cleaned it all up and wiped it all down and went back to the ’employee table’ to set my drink down. 

There was a local customer standing next to me while I was cleaning up around the drink machine at the time and I made a comment to them that if people would make a mess here I would hate to see what their home looked like.

But I began to think about it all and came to one conclusion. When people take a vacation they don’t vacation.  The first thing that goes on vacation for me is myself.  I like to get the body in a vacation mode first.  I tell the family while traveling that we’ll get there when we get there.  I usually let the seat way back, set the cruise control, find a good station on the radio and totally chill.  No hurry to get there, no hurry to get back.  Many times I would watch people come flying around me and others on the road only to catch up to them in the next town or at a rest area.

The ones I noticed this weekend were in such a hurry they will pass everyone on the road, leave a mess for someone else to clean up and almost have an attitude toward other people who are working hard wishing they could take a vacation themselves.  I even smiled at someone and told them to have a safe trip and all I got in return was a half-grin that looked more like they were trying to pass gas as they rushed on out the door.

Has vacationing become more of a chore for a family than what it really was supposed to be for? Are people not happy to be vacationing with their families anymore? Are they not happy to be sharing quality time with their kids while teaching them virtues all at the same time?  Are we as Americans in such a hurry that we don’t want to take time out of our busy schedule to make someone elses day? If it is that much of a burden to not take the time to speak kindly to people and somewhat clean up behind yourself then I would suggest you to stay home.  I know no one is perfect. Kid’s will make a mess.  Adults will make a mess.  My home is far from perfect and it does look lived in. My wife and I’s pet-peave is the kitchen.  Neither one of us can stand a dirty kitchen. 

When you vacation take the time to make a friend everywhere you go.  I like to leave people with a smile because I don’t want them to forget me. I also want them to have the kind of day I plan to have–a good one.

And remember: your attitude and actions in public reflect of who you really are at  home. Have a great day and a safe trip while traveling.

Independence Day

My fondest memory of celebrating Independence Day was when everyone gathered with friends and family and had a cookout, eat watermelon and pop our few firecrackers.  I don’t know about the rest of the country but being from the South it wasn’t always just hotdogs and hamburgers.  We would cook anything and everything we could think of on the grill; chicken, pork chops, sausage, ribs and I even remember a few times thick-sliced bologna being thrown on the grill.

As the years went by we got away from the traditional celebration with friends and family. Everyone stayed at their own homes, watch television and cooked out.  It wind up that I and many others would have to work on “The” most important date in our country’s history.  It seemed to me that the country as a whole was getting away from remembering what this day was all about.  It’s not only about our independence from foreign rule but also the ones that have fought for our freedom and those that are standing guard and fighting today. 

A few years back I felt a yearning for the good times. My wife and I made a cross state trip to spend the 4th with friends we call family to have a big cookout. That will wind up as one of the most memorable fourth’s for me.  This year we got to participate in a town’s parade. I enjoyed meeting people I didn’t know and some I haven’t seen in a while.  After the parade with all our new-found friends we shared hotdogs and watermelon and sat down and talked.  The thought came to me during this time that some others were beginning to think like me; that America is forgetting what the special holidays are really set aside for and concentrating on more of the here and now. Too many are more concerned with trying to get to their destination on time and basking in the sun on a beach or at a lake then actually spending quality time with their family and smiling at their American brothers and sisters on the way.

As American’s lets never forget the real meaning of this special day. Take a moment out of your busy schedule and give God above thanks for His glorious bounty of this great nation. And don’t forget to say a prayer for those that stand guard over us as we sleep.  “Thus saith the Lord, stand ye in the ways, and see, and ask for the old paths, where is the good way, and walk therein, and ye shall find rest for your souls…” (Jeremiah 6:16) Everyone have a great 4th of July and let’s never forget.

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